Woman crush Wednesday

Ok so there is something about tall and slim women that makes me have some insecurities about my own hight and weight. Yes you all will agree that some of us have insecurities about our looks and mine happens to be my height. I feel like if I was taller, I would do much more stuff. Like have more confidence, fit in some cloths, walk  a little faster and things like that.

So my number one woman crush Wednesday for today happens to be my very own Sister called Atika. She is tall and her figure is to die for. I remember growing up i always wished i could grow taller like her...and she would help me do so many crazy things to see if i was going to get taller. She would help pull my legs every day to see if I would have longer legs, I remember one time wje even  bought a magazine with an article on how to grow taller. We would read it and try to follow the steps on how to grow me taller.  Lolz!

Atika always looked good in everything she wears, she could make the worse clothing ever look beautifully wearable. Even when she wears uniform to go to school she always killed it.

My second woman crush Wednesday is also A tall wonderful  friend of mine DR Kemi who lives in the same estate as me. I mean she makes every simple clothing look elegance. I like when she wears Ankara skirt with a simple tshirt and when she wears those hipsters trousers you would literally want to snatch her body off of her. You can never in a million years tell she's got three kids especially with her flat tummy.

I feel like tall women generally stands out. And the fact that they always look confident and makes any kind of clothing looks good and flatering makes it a plus for me to admire them even more. Well I always wanted to be taller. But I am glad i could use my Flaws positively and not forgetting am beautiful in my own way.

To my women crush wednesday Atika And Dr Kemi keep standing tall, love you always.

Staying in love with the Husband

Recently I have been talking to some women on how they feel about staying in love with the Husband even after years of marriage if at all they think it was possible. One woman said to me it is possible to love your husband but it will be difficult to stay in love like the early days when both of you gave each other butterflies. She added that things changes after years of marriage like having kids and just getting carried away in other life activities basically takes love excitements out of the way.

But I believe that one can still stay in love or even further fall in love with their spouses with each passing year. If you want it you definitely make it happen. You just need to make the effort and pay attention to your love life and make it a priority. Women make mistake of believing that showing a man he is needed  will turn him off. But we should know that men also want what women want. So dear wife, go all the way in showing your husband how much you love him and how much he is needed. I may not be a love guru but I sure do have a little experience. Here are some tips in staying in love with hubby even after years of marriage.

The most important step in keeping the bond and strong connection with your husband should be the "us time". The more you get quality time the stronger the relationship gets and the further the love grows. Both of you may spend a lot of time Together but ask your self is this time quality time? Even if you are too busy, make sure you spare time where you can focus on him. It may be difficult sometimes especially when you have young kids, but you should still try your best to make it happen in some feasible  form. You could take him out on dates (which of course he will pay the bills, lol) and when you do go out, Make sure to not talk about the kids or any othe family issues don't talk about your days at work too, remeber it is the "us time" just keep the focus on yourselves.

Try new things together with your Husband. Make him laugh and be silly at all times it can create the some chemical bond of intimacy. Keep the connection throughout the day, send short romantic messages or email to let him know you are thinking about him. Or you could just call him up at work and remind him how fun and enjoyable last night was and how you cannot wait for him to get home. Always praise his physical appearance, it will be really nice and helpful for your man to know that you still find him attractive.

And while your spouse is away, show him how much you miss him. When hubby travels and you miss him a lot. Every night while he is away, sleep in his pyjama or his  t-shirt so u can have a little feel of him, it will help you deal with his absence and comfort you a little bit ( I do that all the time) And you could also keep a little piece of you in his luggage like a hand lotion or a perfume you wear all the time so he can smell you while he is away. This will keep both of you connected.

A great marriage is build on little daily practices that adds flavours to husband and wife relationship which helps both stay in love forever. There is no greater  feelings like the feelings of staying in love with the Husband.

Sex and love making, the difference.

What is the difference between sex and love making? I have been curious about this for quite a long time, so recently i decided to dig into the topic. After doing a little  research on net and based on people's opinions as well as mine, this is what I found best answers this question. Hopefully it will make sense to you.

Sex finishes once the physical act is over.
Sex do not require you to love or even  like the person you are having it with. It is more about your "getting off" rather than pleasing your sexual partner. Sex is  usually hard, hot and nasty.

But love making begins long before we make it to the bedroom. When it reaches the bed room, it is the end result like the 'cherry on top' of a day lived in a loving way. Love making can be experienced throughout the day and  throughout a relationship.

Sex describes a physical connection that leads to sexual pleasure. Sex can take place between a couple irrespective of the fact that they share love or any bond between them. Sex is just an urge for intercourse.

Love making is a feelings of affection, being intimate with your partner not only physically but also mentally. Making love pleases a person's physical, emotional, sexual and mental urges. Love making can also mean having slow and tender sexual intercourse.

You can also simply make love without having sex. Like making your partner a cup of tea, stealing a kiss, sharing a passionate look across a dinner table, snuggling and cuddling while watching a movie e.t.c.

Let me also add that most religion and cultures forbid sex before marriage. like Islam doesn't allow sex or any physical relationship before marriage because it gives it a form of an esteemed status by limiting it to husband-wife relationship.

Love making is the deep emotional connection and affection you have for that one person you truly love and care for, while sex is more about the physical relation.
There is no better way to experience love making than waiting for the right time, doing it the right way and with the right person. If the time is not right for you then abstinence from sex is the healthiest option. It also helps avoid the risks that comes with it.

There are other ways two people in a relationship can become closer and build trust without sex. e.g listening, sharing, respecting each other's thoughts and feelings and enjoying each other's company.

I hope that these answers helps you choose what is best for you.